Sexual Therapy and Sexological Bodywork for Couples
Is sex fading from your relationship? It’s not a necessity that your shared sexuality is growing quieter with time. Let’s talk about it.
When sex fades from a relationship
Our general relationship skills are evolving. We’re increasingly able to be considerate with one another, speak openly about sex, express needs, and respect each other’s boundaries.
Many couples move thoughtfully and happily through the ups and downs of everyday life. Cuddling and physical closeness become shared comfort zones.
But what if, despite all that closeness, the sexual connection goes silent? One person wants more sex, the other less. Or one wants it differently than the other. And even if both want it, that alone doesn’t seem to light the spark.
Maybe first attempts to talk about your shared sexuality didn’t lead to much change. When conversations keep fizzling out and frustrating experiences add up to each other, the fear of feeling helpless or disconnected is often growing.
And then there’s the pressure—of not being able or willing to fulfill your partner’s desires. And of not knowing what to do with your own unfulfilled desires.
Book a sessionChallenges in couples sexuality
Couples face unique challenges when it comes to their shared sexuality:
- Me, You, Us: We flow through our relationship with ever-changing needs
- It can be hard to truly talk to one another—important topics and needs get left out
- Comfortable closeness and exciting erotic moments can feel like two very different things
- In a relationship, one person’s sexual challenges need to be contained together
- Erotic luxury is often the first to disappear behind work, stress, childcare, and labor of reproduction
The idea that sexual desire naturally fades in long-term relationships can feel oddly comforting in the face of this.
Desire can be rediscovered together
But how can we, as a couple, hold onto our sexuality—without setting ourselves up for more disappointment?
I believe we need to feel safe with each other to do that. And paradoxically, many couples give each other a lot of safety by avoiding unsettling questions.
What’s really needed is the safety to face challenges together. This safety allows for courageous steps—ones that can help us rediscover joyful intimacy. That might mean talking about things that truly matter, making room for difference, or allowing your bodies to meet each other in new ways.
We need a space where the I, the You, and the We can explore freely without fear. When we begin to experience moments of lighthearted erotic connection again, long-held worries can begin to loosen.
„We discover that we are capable of fulfilling our wishes for a good relationship ourselves—even in a society that constantly hinders them.“
Michael Lukas Möller
My offering: Sex therapy and Sexological Bodywork for couples in Berlin & online
If your efforts around your shared sexuality repeatedly lead to frustration or conflict, it can be helpful to invite a third person to support you. My goal is to offer you a safe and supportive space for your intimate connection.
I work with the following modalities:
- Dyadic conversations as erotic practice: Talking meaningfully about sex
- Giving and receiving, gifting and allowing: Relationship dynamics within the Wheel of Consent
- Sensing each other: Somatic counseling & embodied experiential spaces
- Learning sensual touch and massage with Sexological Bodywork
I work with monogamous and open relationships/polyamorous couples alike.